Episode 264-The Cost of Control in Ministry, Leadership and Marriage with Ike and Sharon Hodde Miller
How do you lead when your own story is full of pain? What is the cost of control when it comes to ministry, leadership and marriage?
For Ike and Sharon Hodde Miller, learning to navigate the difficulties in ministry these past few years since church planting and a pandemic has led to some insight into their own hearts. As an adult child of an alcoholic, Ike began to see the way his past was impacting his leadership. Sharon started to notice how her desire for control came at a cost to her soul and her relationships. Together, they have done the important work of healing their own wounds and stories while recognizing what they needed to let go of in order to be healthy leaders of Bright City Church in Durham, NC.
In this honest conversation, Ike and Sharon talk with Aubrey about how to lead in a divisive climate, what happens when we reach for control as leaders, and the importance of boundaries in marriage when we lead together.
Whether you're a leader in ministry, business or your home, this episode will encourage you to do the vital inner work to bring healing to your interior world so that you can lead out of health and wholeness.
“It’s not just that we don’t have control over people, but it always costs us whenever we try to control anything God has not given us. It can cost our mental health.”
Ike and Sharon Miller
Sharon’s Website: www.sheworships.com
Ike’s Website: www.ikemiller.com
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Book: The Cost of Control: Why We Crave It, The Anxiety It Gives Us, and The Real Power God Promises
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